A few weeks ago took my son to see the Captain America movie. About halfway through all the intensely brutal scenes, I leaned over and whispered to him, “Do you kind of want to be Captain America when you grow up?” His answer, “I already am.”
At what age does our confidence start to fade? I already see it diminishing in my 11 year old daughter, but I can’t remember the age when she started doubting herself. For me, it was middle school.
Let’s talk about being confident. It’s hard. I get it. We hear all of the bad things rather than the good things. As we get older, our little-boy-Captain-America-confidence fades into vulnerability. We sense the negative before we sense the positive and then we focus on that. Why can’t we just always have that feeling of being hot and awesome?
We are very good at finding the flaws we have. Or rather the flaws we think we have. We can point out in one instant something we do not like about ourselves. This picture is a great example. My daughter took this in the McDonalds parking lot recently when we were traveling and stopped for a potty and stretch break. I was doing some handstands, because why not do handstands? I lifted a hand in my handstand for about 2 whole seconds. I am not going to lie. I felt pretty bad ass about this whole thing.
But, when I looked at the picture I didn’t see the bad ass lady that I pictured in my mind. I saw those thick legs. Big legs. Legs with giant muscles, some fat, cellulite, and sun spots.
I had to remind myself that those thick legs allow me to walk all over amusement parks with my children. Those big legs are strong enough to allow me to teach and practice yoga for hours at a time. Those sun spots are reminders of so much laughter at the beach. My friend Stacy said her strong legs were registered weapons of mass destruction in at least 3 foreign countries. YES. So much YES. Captain-America-Mother-Loving-YES!
Does it look like this guy gives a hoot about anyone? He thinks he is amazing, brilliant, and a super hero. He is right. We all are. We all need to start seeing the beauty in ourselves. The miracles of our bodies. These amazing shells that house our souls. Every part of us that is so beautifully and wonderfully made.
Take just a moment and cultivate gratitude for your body. Get rid of those toxic voices. Shut them up. Ask loved ones for reminders.
And when all else fails, go get out your shield and go Captain America all over this world.